Perhaps one of the keys to understanding the album as a whole is Del Rey’s cover of Nina Simone’s “The Other Woman” at the end of the album. In many ways Del Rey (either autobiographically or as her persona) views herself as an outsider, an interloper in her various relationships with men. To me that is the connecting thread, how lonely, unsatisfied and powerless one is being in that position of the other woman and the very human ways she tries to find satisfaction and gain power over her situation.
This identity takes various meanings and forms on the album, from actually being the other woman in “Shades of Cool” and “Sad Girl”, conflicted as to who she is in “Ultraviolence” (is she deadly or submissive), one of many women in “Cruel World” or the woman who is other (“I am a dragon, you’re a whore”) because she “passed the test” in “F*cked My Way Up To The Top”.
The album begins with her giving herself up to a man (“Share my body and my mind with you”) but when we come to the end she is alone (“And as the years go by the other woman will spend her life alone, alone, alone”). The journey from surrendering herself to these relationships to isolation plays out in dichotomies between power/weakness, submissiveness/femme fatale, violence as beauty/using beauty for violence, spiritualizing relationships and self/dismissing God, trusting in money/money doesn’t satisfy, etc. I can relate with Del Rey because I have given all of myself to someone before, felt the multitude of conflicting emotions that Del Rey has and used language about God in the context of that romantic relationship while refusing to seek out God.
In the first episode of the final season of Fringe (“Transilience Thought Unifier Model-11”), music plays a vital role in Walter Bishop’s narrative as seen in the clip below.
Music as Walter explains, “helps you shift perspective, to see things differently” which the Observer correlates to hope. Interestingly, the song Dr. Bishop hears in his head is Zbigniew Preisner’s Song for the Unification of Europe (Patrice’s version), a song deriving its text from 1 Corinthians 13, known for its exposition on hope, faith and especially, love. Music, which is lacking in this future world, embodies hope in Walter’s mind and once he has found music, he can see the signs of hope as the following video shows.
Looking from a window above
It’s like a story of love, can you hear me?
Came back only yesterday
I’m moving farther away, want you near me
All I needed was the love you gave
All I needed for another day
And all I ever knew, only you
Sometimes when I think of her name
When it’s only a game and I need you
Listen to the words that you say
It’s getting harder to stay when I see you
Music has been seemingly all but removed by the Observers in this dystopian future. But yet it remains. A token of hope pointing towards something greater, that amidst a fallen and broken world “love never fails” (1 Corinth. 13:8). For even the Fringe team in this bleak future “neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Rom. 8:38-39) This is hope. The hope Walter remembered in a song based on an ancient text speaking of a the already/not yet hope not only for Dr. Bishop but for all of humanity.
Man was made for woman and woman for man. As much as our culture would like to ignore or deny this fact, nature proclaims it daily. And through the ages, artists have been unable to resist its power. Has there ever been a subject which has inspired more artistic expression? And yet, it also seems that the magic of pure, undying love is one that all too many people feel is too good to be true. In this post, I explore two of my favorite love songs: Simon & Garfunkel’s “For Emily, Whenever I May Find Her” and Marc Cohn’s “True Companion.” At the same time, I point out the contrast between the songs’ idealized vision and some of the comments their authors have made about the reality of that vision. Although they are able to give us a beautiful picture of romantic love in their art, they believe that it is only an illusion, that they are unable to make the vision a reality in their own lives. I find this at once tragic and believable. In our cynical, fallen world, is it any wonder they should think that way?
This contrast was brought home to me in a famous live performance of “For Emily,” which Paul Simon chose to stage back-to-back with a different song called “Overs.” He explained that “For Emily” isn’t really about a girl named Emily, it’s about a belief. Then “Overs,” a song about a relationship that’s falling apart, is about “the loss of that belief.” Here is that performance of “Emily.” (For a performance with better sound quality, go here):
And here is the follow-up performance of “Overs” (lyrics here):
Of the two songs, “For Emily” was by far the most popular at the time and has remained a much-loved classic through the decades. So why is it that the song which Simon later looked back on with some embarrassment as a sappy nothing has endured so long, while the wry cynicism of “Overs” hasn’t? Perhaps it’s because the desire to “believe” runs so strong in the human spirit. Or as Simon himself wrote in a different song called “Train in the Distance,” “The thought that life could be better is woven indelibly into our hearts and our brains.” “For Emily” gives us, literally, a dream, a “what if”? But Simon seems to think it’s a little bit like The Matrix—it offers us exactly what we want to hear:
And when you ran to me, your
Cheeks flushed with the night
We walked on frosted fields
Of juniper and lamplight.
I held your hand…
And when I awoke
And felt you warm and near,
I kissed your honey hair
With my grateful tears.
Oh, I love you girl.
Oh, I love you.
But when the rubber meets the road, when you get down to the nitty-gritty of real, complex human relationships, things aren’t so dream-like. Things fall apart. Things break. Things get stale. It is this bleak, monotonous and decidedly unromantic picture that Simon paints for us in “Overs”:
We might as well be apart.
It hardly matters,
We sleep separately.
And drop a smile passing in the hall
But there’s no laughs left
‘Cause we laughed them all.
And we laughed them all
In a very short time.
But is this picture really more “real” than “For Emily?” Or is it only giving us part of the picture, part of the reality?
Fast-forward a couple decades to another young writer who’s just put the finishing touches on a romantic lyric. His girlfriend of seven years is much more interested in marriage than he is, but as an artist he’s so pleased with the lyric that he sings it to her, and she takes it as a marriage proposal. “Men are scum,” he laughs in concert when he shares the story later.
That writer was Marc Cohn, and the song was “True Companion”:
While the song went on to become a beloved wedding standard, Cohn’s own marriage sadly ended in divorce in the late 90s. In a 1992 interview with Q magazine, Cohn described the song as the most sentimental he ever wrote, bordering on “queasy.” He continued: “It’s the guy thinking in ideal terms. I was still so ambiguous about marriage when I wrote it that it was a sort of wish-fulfillment song. And to be honest, I’ve only slowly grown towards the sort of feelings the song is about. I’m still not there.”
Much like Simon, Cohn looked on his work as little more than wishful thinking. Yet it’s a standard he wanted to attain. He wished he could sincerely feel the passion that pulsed through his own heartfelt lyrics:
When the years have done irreparable harm
I can see us walking, slowly, arm in arm
Just like the couple on the corner do
‘Cause girl I will always be in love with you.
When I look in your eyes,
I’ll still see that spark,
Until the shadows fall,
Until the room grows dark.
And when I leave this Earth,
I’ll be with the angels standin’.
I’ll be out there waiting for my true companion.
But like the couple in “Overs,” he and his wife couldn’t keep up that spark. It was only a dream.
But dreams don’t come from nowhere. Desires don’t arise by accident. Whether we realize it or not, there’s a part of ourselves that still remembers the Garden of Eden. Non-Christians dismiss it as a chance illusion, but those of us who believe God’s revelation through Scripture can clearly trace the source of what they can’t help feeling and expressing. It is a longing for paradise lost, a foretaste of paradise restored. Far from being an illusion of reality, this longing points to something that will one day be far more real than this fallen world, where hearts are broken and people fall out of love all too easily. It was not so in the beginning, and it will not be so in the world to come, when God shall wipe away all tears from our eyes.
Even here in this fallen world, we have the opportunity through Christ to experience the joy of a loving marital union built on His sure foundation. For it is only when we set our affections on Him that we can truly know the sweetness of an enduring, earthly love. Without Christ, our joy is a passing thing. In Christ, we find the joy of knowing Him, and all other joys with it.
These things have I spoken to you, that my joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full. — John 15:11
A review of the month in music.
- Beyonce ruled the Superbowl and had her own HBO special. The reaction to her halftime show was mixed. Was it expression of feminine power or playing into the sexual desires of men?
- Flavorwire presented us with 10 Christian Songs they felt do not suck. Do you agree?
- How do you explain our multi-dimensional universe? With music, of course!
- MC Hammer was arrested and suggested that he was racial profiled.
- Marco Rubio who gave the counter argument to Obama’s State of the Union address, loves 90’s rap. On the other hand, the soon resigning pope loves classical music, especially Mozart.
- A large tribute to musicals at the Oscars of mostly contemporary re-imaginings.
- Is the rock hiatus a sham? Flavorpill thinks it is.
- 80’s rocker Adam Ant talks about his bipolar disorder with Rolling Stone and his return to music.
- PBS Idea Channel thinks an mp3 or vinyl is better than a live performance. What do you think?
- Can the deaf experience music? The BBC National Orchestra thinks they can.
- EDM artist Al Wasler did not win a Grammy and this Spin contributor is thankful.
- My fellow Christ and Pop Culture colleague, Nick Rynerson, examines why Americana and Folk music have experienced a resurgence in recent years.
- We hate silence, even where silence is encouraged as in a classical concert.
- Which leaves us with this infographic describing what happens in our brain when we listen to music.
- But we almost forgot about the #1 single on Billboard’s Hot 100, Harlem Shake and the endless array of viral videos with the dance.